You and I are in a relationship that I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with unique needs and has the right to meet those needs.
When you are having problems in meeting your needs, I will try to listen with genuine acceptance in order to facilitate your own solutions instead of depending on mine. I also respect your right to choose your own beliefs and develop your own values, though they may be different from mine.
However, when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can try to change my behavior.
At those times when we find that neither of us cannot change to meet the other’s needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each other’s conflict without neither of us resorting to use the power of authority - - to win at the expense of the other’s lose. I respect your needs but I must also respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, and so will be mine - - neither will lose, both will win.
In this way, we can continue to develop as a person through satisfying needs and so can I. thus; ours can be healthy relationship which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being. And we can continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, love and peace.
When you are having problems in meeting your needs, I will try to listen with genuine acceptance in order to facilitate your own solutions instead of depending on mine. I also respect your right to choose your own beliefs and develop your own values, though they may be different from mine.
However, when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me, trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the behavior that is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can try to change my behavior.
At those times when we find that neither of us cannot change to meet the other’s needs, let us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each other’s conflict without neither of us resorting to use the power of authority - - to win at the expense of the other’s lose. I respect your needs but I must also respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met, and so will be mine - - neither will lose, both will win.
In this way, we can continue to develop as a person through satisfying needs and so can I. thus; ours can be healthy relationship which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being. And we can continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, love and peace.
